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August 2013

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Why being a woman in Saudi is so amazing!

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Life has its own way of living itself whether we enjoy it or not. It is part of what we signed up for and this includes being a woman in Saudi Arabia. Nothing can really prepare you for living here; not reading about it, not even living here all your life can make you an expert in how to deal with life in Saudi as a woman, especially a local woman.

You are not allowed to drive. You can’t travel or even apply to a job or college without your male guardian’s approval, but this is not all. You are always judged and whatever you do is strictly monitored by society. The quality of your own living is decided and dependent on your own family’s boundaries –you’ll be among the lucky elite if you happen to be born into an open-minded family. We are still supervised by the tribal culture and values regardless of how big or advanced we are becoming as a country and a nation.

But things are changing rapidly and we have witnessed it especially in the last decade; we are living in the information era. People are able to gain more information easily and adapt changes very easily. One of the most rapid changes we are witnessing is the ability for women here to gain more rights and have more access to things we haven’t dreamt of 20 or 30 years ago and we are overcoming all obstacles and challenges.

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We are amazing because of what we can offer to ourselves, our society, and to the world. We are intelligent, strong, self-sufficient, and independent. We can do what we want when we want compared to what was a burden before. We are more secure and self-motivated and this made us happier.

The government is being a strong supporter in empowering us. Laws are being put in place to allow women to have more freedom at work. Numbers are saying that Saudi women constitute more than 17% of the native workforce. The number of working women increased 280% in the last decade. Mixed gender work places are becoming more acceptable.

In 3 decades female literacy in Saudi jumped from 2% to 82% – with more than 50% with higher education degrees and the number of Saudi women graduating from colleges with high education degrees is higher than many western countries.

We have a female minister, female parliament advisors, female lawyers, and female athletes competing in the Olympics, hundreds of thousands of Saudi women studying or working abroad. Things we never imagined about a decade ago.

I do believe that sometimes we still feel down, we still demand more but let’s admit and accept that there is a moderate progress happening by the government and we shall support it rather than criticizing it. The change is happening and we strong Saudi women are leading it.

For a nation that is relatively considered young struggling between the tribal and conservative parties, the political issues, and the youth along with the government’s urge to develop the human in order to develop the country and be a first world classified country, changes happening here are structured to benefit us while not harming or causing conflicts with any party even if others see it as very slow steps we can rest assured that they are sustainable steps.

Always believe that the best is yet to come and we will get there soon.

Friday

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July 2013

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Believing is just the beginning! All you need is trust and a little bit of pixie dust!

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“All you need is trust and a little bit of pixie dust!” – J.M. Barrie, “Peter Pan”

It’s all about believing your dream and chasing it. Mandela did it, Abraham Lincoln did it, Marie Curie did it, Cinderella did it—and you will do it.
Never underestimate a dream, and never trick yourself into thinking you can’t be whom you want to be. Life is about dreaming, taking risks, and fulfilling goals.Dreaming and Believing But believing is only the beginning. You can’t sit still and wait for a dream to materialize; all achievers were once dreamers who had not only faith, but also ambition.

To start achieving your dream, you must:

1. Have faith in the amazing power of a dream.
2. Create a vision for the future. Live this vision—fantasize about it, build on it, see it grow, and allow yourself to be

taken over by it-.
3. Develop an emotional yet intelligent attitude toward your dream.
4. Set up an action plan for your dream, and be patient and realistic (Rome wasn’t build in a day).
5. Live with the subconscious belief that this dream is a reality, and is happening even though you don’t see it just yet. Let it be the fuel running your engine, the reason you get out of bed every morning, and the motivation to clear your head and meditate in your room every night.
6. Don’t surrender, and never take no for answer. Be persistent.
7. Don’t let negative thoughts control you or hold you back.
8. Be flexible and open-minded for any detours on the road to achieving your dream (as long as they don’t keep you from your final goal).
9. Review your progress frequently: Are you getting closer? Are you on track? If not, change your approach—before it’s too late.
10. Consult experienced people around you, and listen to everyone. You never know who will add value to your thoughts and give you a free insight you were never aware of.

Whenever the road ahead of you becomes blocked, remember that there is an “outer space”, as Thomas Edison once described it. Simply pray to your god to expand your creative imagination and inner peace.
And at the end, never ever give up. Dreams will simply remain dreams and never become realities if you stop moving toward them.

Don’t stop dreaming—and believing.

Monday

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June 2013

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I’m not superwoman; I just never cried in public.

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Let me tell you a little bit about myself. I’m a multicultural Saudi woman in my late 20s, a daughter, a sister, a wife. You can call me an entrepreneur – the most over used word in the dictionary this decade- taking risks, accepting challenges, and going back and forth between starting new businesses and running projects. I also do consulting work in some agencies and firms in my field. My days are spent either working 12 hours or traveling to meet people and closing deals. On paper, this all sounds mind-blowing, a life every girl will dream of but in reality, it is all that plus the tension and stress.

This fast-paced life I’m living developed in me an inner personality that no one heard about or saw -the struggling warrior- and I believe each woman has her own warrior inside.

Everyone I meet can describe me as an outgoing person, always smiling, laughing and cheering everyone around me. But to be able to maintain the spirit, to wake up every morning with a smile from ear to ear, I developed a technique to balance the life around me. I had to admit I’m not a superwoman, but I’ll never cry in public. And then I started step by step adapting what I can call my remedy:

– Give myself a break for few minutes from everything around me.

– Never react or overanalyze anything.

– Prioritize relations and actions.

– Don’t escape; it will only make it worse.

– Unwind with good music, a book, and a cup of coffee daily.

– Drink a lot of water and get the needed food supplements and vitamins. (You should consult a physician on this first.)

– Always look at the bright side and stay positive; it always gets better.

– Keep a group of positive friends around you and be the friend you look for in others.

– In the end, it is always OK and acceptable to cry alone and wash out what is left of a hectic day or week.

Life is hard and it gets harder as we grow older. It is part of the package we all signed up for. It is how you accept it and react to it that matters. “A calm sea never made a skilled sailor.” So laugh, cry, scream, shout, dance, walk, eat, drink but never give up or let go. We are never superwomen; we just never cry in public.