We live in the most conservative Asian culture –or maybe just a double-faced blind-sided society.
If you look around you in your own social circle, you’ll understand what I’ll be discussing here.
We women were raised with one ultimate goal, which is to get married and procreate like rabbits. It is very rare to find a family that raises their daughter to be a useful member of the society rather than grooming her to be a trophy wife.
How many career-related success parties have you heard about compared to how many weddings and engagement parties you’ve been invited to during a year?
Did your elder relatives ever gather to celebrate a promotion or an achievement in your career the way they do if you get married or have a baby?
The idea of achievements and success are usually gender discriminated. Any achievement you as a woman achieve is nothing unless you have a kid jumping around your legs or a man by your side as if you are incomplete without him. We’ve never seen society caring about a man’s social status when celebrating his success.
I’m not against the idea of building a family or having a partner that supports you through life. I’m just against the concept of making a woman’s life revolve around it.
The perception of being incomplete. The idea that men are complete by their financial independency, but you as a woman will never be unless you have a ring around your finger.
We don’t need the sympathy or the sad looks every time an outstanding strong successful husband-less woman is around, and some might take it to a next level and start discussing how to make her life better by having a husband or being so generous in suggesting an x person as a candidate.
All we seek is to be defined as me, a strong independent woman with no labels and no attachments the same way you always identify independent men.